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Working Out the Timetable as a Single Mom

Posted on June 28th, 2010

At some point in my growth as a person I realized that I work best when my schedule is stressed.  In other words, I get more done when I have more to do.  I don’t know if this happens to other people, but it does happen to me.

HOWEVER, in the past several months I’ve come to realize that I have piled a bit too much on the plate.  Now I’m at a point where I can’t figure out how to have my own life, earn a living, keep the house and raise the kids.

How do you work that all out when you’re a single mom?

I think it would work if all my kids had their driver’s license.  But, since the youngest is 7 and I don’t let them drive until their over 16 – it could be a while.

In the meantime, I’m trying to develop friendships, maintain old friendships, keep the yard cleaned up, homeschool the children, go to basketball games, fix dinner – you know the drill.  I’m still trying to figure this all out.

In the meantime I’m expanding the reach of my company.  I usually work just for myself but now I want to do some consulting to help lessen the possibility of another reduction in business like I experienced last February – like the rest of the country did too.

Not complaining – just the thought of adding even more to this already stretched time budget makes me wonder where sleep fits in to the picture?

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Out Of The Box

Posted on June 25th, 2010

Stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something different has been a real effort for me.  I love being at home, surrounded by my by family.  But my family is growing and getting lives of their own.  So it’s time I get one of my own.

I’ve been on Match.com now for about a month and ‘met’ several men.  Somehow sending and receiving email is so much less threatening than leaving the house and going to meetings or participating in group activities.

But participate I must!  So I am inserting strength and courage and will attend the next Jelly meeting in my city.  If it kills me (and it very well may!) I will meet and work with other people who work from home.

The concept is great.  Work at home men and women get together once a month to work together with their laptops.  It gives us stay-at-homers the opportunity to talk with real people, in real time, face-to-face.

However, and it’s a BIG however, it scares the snot out of me!  I will walk into this room with other professionals who all know each other.  I will be odd man out.  It’s not that I’m not familiar with this position – being odd man out – just that it’s not one I appreciate or enjoy.

Not that ANYONE enjoys it – but it scares me.  And each time I’ve responded and told them I would come I’ve backed out at the last minute for one excuse or another.  This month will be different.  This month I will attend – and then I’ll let you know how it goes

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Time Flies . . . No Fun

Posted on June 21st, 2010

Wow – I was surprised at how long it’s been since I visited this blog – and how much has happened in the last three or four months.  It feels like I’m a totally different person . . . guess that means I’m growing!

Let’s see. . . my oldest daughter is getting ready to  attend college this fall and it’s killing me!  She is such a wonderful girl and I’ve really enjoyed having her with me.  My oldest son has decided to quit playing basketball in his senior year in high school so he can concentrate more fully on school and raising his GPA – such a mature decision!  My youngest is excited about starting 8th grade and must have grown 1 inch while away at church camp this past week.  And my youngest – - – she is the light of our family, and remains so.

I don’t think I’ve felt any anger or disgust toward my ex for several months now.  I think I just feel pity.  He’s missing out on four incredible children and it was his decision to do it!  That’s something I have a hard time fathoming.

In the meantime I’ve started “dating” – if it can seriously be called that! UGH.  I’m 50 years young and all of my friends are married.  Their friends are married.  And the friends that aren’t married are too young, too old or are still living with their parents at the ripe age of 50.  Never thought I’d find myself in this position at my age!

I’m trying out Match.com now – will have to report how that is going after another month or two.  There seem to be eligible matches (which is better than at eHarmony) but it all takes time.

Time. . . sometimes I think I have too much of it – like late at night when the house is quiet and I’m lonely.  At other times I don’t have enough to make it all work.  I know that God is with me now and forever – and today that’s all I need.

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