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Oh The Weather Outside Is Frightful

Posted on January 28th, 2009

It snowed here this morning – about 3 inches – and now it’s raining and freezing over. The weather is miserable.  I am grateful that we are warm and safe inside our home.  There may be some holes in the dry wall and the refrigerator may be taped shut but we have heat, warmth, food and family.  There just isn’t anything to complain about.

Except maybe the hundredth time I’ve had to refocus my oldest boy to do his homework.  School may have been canceled but it doesn’t mean that we don’t have to complete our work.  Two days of canceled school, treacherous roads and ice laden trees and somehow that should equate to hours in front of YouTube and Facebook!

I woke up this morning to realize that although I had hoped that the divorce would be final in October – then December – then February – I have to consider that I work on God’s time and not the other way around.  Trying to anticipate the timing of the process has done nothing but make me irritable.

So if things aren’t finalized until next Christmas, then, so be it!  The house is peaceful.  I love my work and no one is here to pound on my self-esteem.  It really is all that I need.

When the papers are final I’ll have to start paying for health insurance – and since I’ll have to get COBRA for several more months because of a previous condition this is really a blessing.

So, I will learn more patience and understand that when God releases me it will be time.

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And Just When I Thought I Had To Start Over

Posted on January 22nd, 2009

I work in a rather unconventional business as a writer.  About four weeks ago I had approached someone to work with me that would help to generate more business for me.  And then about 2 weeks ago all communication stopped.

I was perplexed and somewhat nervous because I am counting on more business to keep my head afloat.

In the meantime I went to small group last night and we were talking about God’s time and how he puts people in our lives right when we need them – as long as we’re open enough to recognize it!

In thinking back I realized that I needed the promise of a brighter future before Christmas – which is when I met this person.  And, although he hasn’t been in touch in 3 weeks our communication before the Holidays helped me to get through those weeks.

And today, right when I was ready to give up and find someone else, he wrote to tell me that the process we were going to use he is updating and that this will be better and easier – but another 4 weeks away.

Having a good experience with predicting times when projects are completed I’ll have to bet it’s more like 8 weeks but if the project works more smoothly it’ll be worth the wait!

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I Made a New Friend Yesterday

Posted on January 19th, 2009

It’s funny how these experiences have opened up doors and conversations with people that I never would have guessed about.

I was talking with a woman I’ve known for five years now.  We’ve car pooled for years around basketball.  I’ve talked with her about an environmentally safe product I use.  I’ve been to her house and our children play together.

But yesterday I learned that she’d been married before her present marriage.  And I learned that her first marriage was abusive.  That some of the things he did I’d heard before.  There were similarities and things that weren’t similar but it was a bond that I didn’t expect.

She told me that only a handful of people that she knew here knew about this.  But she also knew what I went through.  And what I continue to do to protect the children and to fight for sole custody.

She has since remarried and has two more children from this 15 year marriage. He is a wonderful man that I’ve known for the past 5 years also.

Seems there really is hope for me in the future.  If God wants me married again I know that He’ll bring a man who will keep God with us.

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