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Attorneys Who Drag Their Feet Should Be . . .

Posted on February 27th, 2009

YOU fill in the blank. UGH!

I have been REEKING with patience for months.   The papers go back and forth.  There are negotiation meetings.  We agree and then he disagrees.

He digs in his heels, then I dig in mine.

Now there are two attorneys who are in the mix too.  My ex wanted his attorney to represent him during the proceedings so his attorney is now dragging this process out even further.

My attorney told me that this other attorney called him FOUR times last week to iron out one minor detail.  And believe me these last to items are minor.  At $200.00 an hour I’m sure those phone calls and emails are costing me two weeks worth of groceries.

Two days ago my ex told me that maybe if he dragged it out even longer I’d change my mind.  And maybe if he drags it out even longer I’ll ask for more.

The ex and two boys are out of town this week for a basketball tourney and won’t return until the weekend.  Hopefully, when they return the ex can talk with his attorney and we can get the ball rolling.

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Letting Go is Challenging

Posted on February 25th, 2009

My oldest daughter has been asking to do a mission trip for years.   Literally years – since she was 12.

Then yesterday this opportunity just ‘fell’ into our laps.  She had wanted to go on a trip to the Carribean with her best friend that is planned for this summer.  I hadn’t been too excited about it and she dropped the subject.

Then the youth pastor called yesterday believing that my daughter had already put her name on the list.  He was only confirming her interest and making sure she could turn in her application and her deposit by Friday.

UGH!  I didn’t know a thing about this.

I’ve spent the last 24 hours agonizing over this and trying to decide if she should go.  We don’t have the money and she’ll have to fund raise and pay for the trip herself.  She’ll spend a week sleeping in the heat, without air conditioning and eating beans and rice.

She won’t eat rice or beans at home, loves the air conditioning and hates dust.  AND she’s just dying to go.

So after much tearing of hair and knashing of teeth (calling her father, aunt, friends and the family she’ll be traveling with) we decided that she could make the trip – but with specific criteria.

She’s willing to live with the criteria – the real question will be  – how will I get through the week with her out of the country this summer?

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Conversations with a Neighborhood Mom

Posted on February 20th, 2009

I was walking the dog today up the street and ran into one of my neighbors.  She has been divorced for 3 years now after her ex-husband left her for another woman.  (The woman across the street from her, and next door to me, has been divorced for 9 months after her husband left her for another woman.  Seems to be an epidemic.)

So, anyway, I was walking the dog and we stopped to chat.   We started talking about dating after divorce – the ups and downs, how to manage the time around the kids and their commitments and all the other complications that surround the issue.

She had just broken up a one year dating relationship this past October and started dating another person this past week who she met online.    She talked about how difficult it was to tell her children about the loss of this other man this past October.

Dating after a divorce, especially when there are children involved, is dicey at best and definitely complicated.  When the time comes for me to consider bringing another man into our home and into our lives I pray that God gives me guidance that is patently obvious.

So obvious that I have a hard time overlooking it.  Because, while I want to follow his Will there are times that my own desires get in the way.

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